Amor Fati
If you loved everything that happened to you, it could be
the foundation for a powerful, authentic life. Loving your experience if loving
your being, your life.
The proposition here is that love isn’t the only emotion you
have to things that happen to you, but it is a meta emotion. So, hate the “bad”
thing, be disgusted by it and also love that it has happened to you.
Strange idea maybe but why would you do it?
The idea here is that we perceive, take decisions and act on
the basis of our prior experience. If we deny our previous experience then it isn’t
a strong part of our experience, therefore not used as much.
The irony being here, is that if the “bad” thing isn’t used
as part of our current life, then we can never reframe it and then end saying oh
that bad thing actually became the making of me.
The opposite of love, in this space is to deny the existence
of, our ownership of an experience.
So comparing your life experience to others and wishing you
had theirs, takes that experience and wishing it wasn’t. You are wanting to get
rid of it, deny it.
When you say things shouldn’t happen, they were unfair etc,
again that seems like you are distancing yourself from it
As you push experience away from yourself, it then cant be
used so strongly in your life, it then becomes frozen as it doesn’t change
because its not part of you.
This approach sees an experience as part of your whole life,
and to get meaning throughout that, not in itself
Again to love your experience, is also to notice also what
comes out of the experience in the moment.
I am sad because a bad thing happens to me, I can learn to
comfort myself for my sadness. I develop some strength do be with that sadness.
So I can develop resilience. I can now go where the sad things live and not be
afraid, so my range of behaviour enlarges. I can connect to other people about
sad things. I become receptive to my environment as I don’t have to ward off
sad things. This approach in the moment tends to see experience as many things,
as a process, not just a unitary bad thing.
